I'm 24 years old and will probably get married in two years, but the thought of the future makes me panic. I'm especially scared that I won't know how to get along with my in-laws, and I'm also worried that I won't be able to take care of my small family, plus I'm not very good at cooking and doing housework, so I really don't know what to do.
QUESTION: I'm 24 years old and I'm facing anxiety about getting married, fearing my future relationships and ability to do housework, and this fear is overwhelming me.
This emotion of feeling afraid of the future is actually a sign of anxiety. Perhaps it is because you see the happy married life of others in your circle of friends, and when you compare them, you feel that you are not good enough, so you feel stressed.
In fact, no one stipulates that a married woman must become a chef and cook every meal with all the colors and flavors; nor does anyone require that a wife must keep the house spotlessly clean. Taking care of children is more of a learning-by-doing process, and pregnancy and childcare are all about slowly gaining experience. Skills can be learned through classes if needed, but there is no need to be overly concerned; life after marriage is not as scary as one might think.
You are now 24 years old and planning to get married in two years, there is still plenty of time to learn how to cook. In terms of housework, you just need to clean up your home according to your own standards after marriage. When you have children, the love of being a mother will allow you to naturally learn to take care of your family and slowly grow into a qualified mom.