When we want to do something but we are worried about hurting others, but if we don't do it we feel suffocated and unfree, how do we deal with this conflict?
This actually reflects differences in lifestyles and values.
Hi, how are you the owner ~ I'm Whale Social Worker Koboku and I'm happy to talk to you.
First of all, a warm hug to you, I can totally understand how you feel. From your description, I can see that you are facing an inner pull: on the one hand, you want to follow your heart and do things, but on the other hand, you are afraid that this will affect others.
In psychology, we often encourage people to listen more to their inner voice and do what they really want to do. But we also have to understand that people are not islands and our freedom is not unlimited. If we pursue our freedom to the detriment of others, over time we may lose friends, our social relationships become strained, and we end up making ourselves unhappy instead, because human beings are social animals and cannot live without interaction with others.
That's why there needs to be a certain boundary to our free action, and that is to try not to hurt the rights and interests of others. When you find a way to satisfy your own needs without negatively affecting others, that's when you'll feel doubly happy - both in terms of self-actualization and the possibility of winning more understanding and friendship.
All the best to you ~ (whale social worker 🐳)