She and I have been close friends since we were classmates, and over the past few years, we shared little bits and pieces of our lives almost every day, despite the fact that we were separated by two places. Later, she moved to the big city, experienced the end of a relationship, and I also faced the blow of the death of a loved one, gradually, I found that she began to some things no longer confide in me, and no longer take the initiative to contact me. Every time I look for her to chat, her reply is always a short "uh", "oh", seems very perfunctory. I know in my heart, this is a signal of estrangement, because she was not like this. Thinking about our friendship for so many years may end, it is really regrettable, but I also really feel that the relationship between each other has changed. If I stop taking the initiative to maintain it, I'm afraid the friendship will naturally dissipate.
I don't have many friends, and even fewer that I can call close, so she's extra important to me. It's hard for me to deal with this change. Perhaps this is the price of growing up - some once close friends can drift apart with time and changing circumstances.
Sometimes I can't even tell if I'm sad because I've lost her as a friend or because I'm afraid of being alone. After all, I was hurt by her hot-and-cold attitude - silent when she was unhappy, and only occasionally talking when she was in a good mood.
Hello dear friend! I can understand the confusion and heartache you're feeling right now, and I'll start by giving you a warm hug.
I think you can try to expand your social circle and make more new friends.
Don't put all your emotions on one person.
That way, even if a certain friend leaves one day, you won't feel so lost.
The point is, she only picks up on you when she's in a good mood and perfunctorily when she's not, which can really make you feel hurt.
Friendships like this are not really healthy.
If you continue to force the relationship, you may be setting yourself up for more internal conflict.
If that's the case, choosing to let go might be the best decision for each other.
Because true friendship should be easy and enjoyable for both parties.
I sincerely hope you find a solution to this problem soon.
That's all the advice I can offer at the moment.
I hope my sharing has inspired and helped you in some way. I am learning well every day.
The world and I love you in this family. I wish you all the best!