I remember when I was in middle school, basically no one in my family would listen to me, my mom lived out of town, my dad worked a lot and was always tired and emotionally unstable after work.
My stepmother was even more loving and even a little bored with me.
Even my grandmothers and aunts, my relatives, often ignored my confidences.
But because of this, I have instead learned the importance of listening and turned this skill into an interpersonal tool.
When I talk to people now, I always listen to them patiently, even if I'm not too interested inside, I nod my head in response, ask questions at the right time, and give a sincere compliment at the end.
Hi, owner! I'm smile 😊.
After reading what you shared, I deeply understand your confusion and here's a warm hug to you first 🐥.
You mentioned that the lack of being listened to as a child made you grow up knowing more about the value of listening and even using it to win others over. That's really awesome and another kudos to you 🐣.
Maybe you tried to express yourself many times while growing up, but circumstances made you slowly give up because you felt that no matter what you said, adults wouldn't listen carefully to what children had to say. Over time, you may have wondered if your ideas mattered.
In fact, this situation is common in many traditional families - adults tend to think that children's opinions are irrelevant, and are accustomed to treating children in a condescending manner, seldom thinking from their point of view. Additionally, adults are busy themselves, so they naturally neglect to listen to their children.
Here I've compiled a few tips to help you alleviate this emotion and promote self-growth ❤️.
(1) Accept reality first and don't force a change in the adult's mindset as they are often deeply entrenched. 🌻
(2) Listening is the cornerstone of relationships; it represents your willingness to share and connect and is key to building genuine friendships. 🌻
(3) True listening is not just passive listening, but also active feedback, such as offering your own insights. 🌻
(4) Don't forget that your thoughts are just as valuable and don't trivialize your true feelings. 🌻
The world and I love you ☀️
Good luck 🌙