This ex was the main character in my last relationship... We were actually together for a short time, only three months, but the whole thing went surprisingly well.
The good times are always fleeting.
Maybe I was too immersed in it.
To our friends, we seemed to be very compatible from our conditions to our habits and hobbies, and some even joked that we even had a few similarities in our looks.
It made me think for a moment that we were made for each other.
The reason for the breakup was a bit inexplicable, and then he took the initiative to find me, and I contacted him, but both because of face-saving issues, and no one had the courage to offer to make up.
This incident became a hurdle in my heart.
Now, there is a boy around me who is well qualified and considerate to me, but I can't help but feel resistance and fear at the mere thought of getting into a relationship with him.
This emotion makes me anxious.
I'm even starting to have self-doubt.
What bothers me even more is that every time I feel a little more attracted to this boy, my body unconsciously resists it, and I suddenly have a feeling of "going down".
What the hell is going on here?
How do I break this cycle?
God, what the hell am I gonna do?
Hi, dear friend!
A warm hug for you first! ⊙ω⊙
The reason you are afraid to start a new relationship may be because you haven't gotten over your last one. After a short period of time together, and the fact that you were a good match in every way, the problems were not exposed and the relationship stayed at its best and then ended abruptly. Your breakups and failed reunions actually exposed communication issues that unfortunately weren't resolved. Instead of going too well in the beginning, the relationship was made fragile and the full moon was lost. Perhaps you couldn't accept the outcome and the beautiful illusion was shattered, causing you to be fearful of the problems you might encounter in your new relationship.
It's a good idea to treasure the good memories of this relationship as a special experience in your life.
And every relationship is unique, just because one failed doesn't mean the next one will. Don't be afraid to fall in love just because of one setback, maybe this time the relationship that didn't go so well will go further instead, sometimes small ups and downs can make a relationship stronger.
There is, of course, another way of thinking about it:
If you just can't let go, you think your ex is a good fit and want to try back:
Calmly tell him that you don't want to end the relationship. You can have an honest conversation about the reasons for the breakup, even if it starts as a friend first. Or ask a mutual friend to help pull the strings. If it's the right person, you'll always be together if you go round and round; if it still fails, then it might just be fate.
I hope these suggestions help and wish you a speedy exit from the shadows! (▽)🎈
Feel free to correct me if there is something wrong.