How is sexual monogamy determined?
It's confusing to me that guys I like respond to my feelings in a way that makes me feel sick or uncomfortable.
Hello, dear friend! I am Mr. Tang Feng from Duren Psychology. Seeing your question, I can fully understand your doubts and uneasiness. In fact, foreign researches have confirmed that there is a group of people called
Sexual Monogamists.
Sexual monogamy is a sexual orientationthat refers to "a person who is in love with someone but does not want an emotional response; once the other person responds, the love complex disappears." Simply put, it's a person who desires love but doesn't want to be responded to, prefers to indulge in one-sided imagery, and doesn't need or even hates two-way interaction and direct feedback.Sexual monogamy isn't right or wrong, and it doesn't hurt others; it's just a manifestation of diverse aptitudesIt is just a manifestation of diverse sexual orientation.
If you meet someone you like, you can try these methods: ① Let go of shame and aversion, you have done nothing wrong, sexual monogamy itself is not a problem, learn to accept any of your own sexuality; ② If you enjoy the process of chasing love, you can rest assured that you can enjoy the joy of monogamy, tell the other person in advance of the situation, if necessary, to gain understanding; ③ Improve self-identity, every day to discover their own strengths, and if you exclude intimate contact If you are not able to get into intimate contact, you can start adapting to small things, such as hooking fingers or holding hands; ④ You can also talk to a counselor to explore the fear together, face and solve it.