My son is in his second year of junior high school this year, and he gets especially anxious every time he takes a test, so as a parent, what can I do to help him?
Final exams are coming up and my son says to me, "Mom, the exams are coming and I'm feeling anxious."
I often don't know how to respond when he says it.
Because I used to always say, it's okay, everything's going to be okay.
But he responded, so what.
I tried to reassure him not to worry too much about grades, and again he said that's your idea, not mine.
When I ask him how he needs mommy's help, he asks me back what can you do to help? It's times like this that I always feel powerless!
When faced with our children's heavy school workload, we as parents are heartbroken.
But really, respect is more important than love.
What we think is best may not be what the child really needs and is appropriate.
What should we give our children that will make them feel loved and handle learning at the same time?
The key to ❤️ is to do the "three no's":
1. do not humiliate the child (e.g. do not compare him with others to avoid making him feel ashamed)
2. Don't blame the child (don't hurt his self-esteem by treating him right).
3. Do not transmit anxiety. (Don't expect too much from your child or frighten him with dire future consequences.)
🌹 More psychological support, especially unconditional acceptance and sincere encouragement.
Gently accept your child as a person whenever he makes a mistake, gets frustrated, or has emotions.
When he does well, recognize and praise him promptly, specifically, and sincerely, appreciating his efforts and qualities more than just his accomplishments.
Stick with it and your child will grow in confidence and inner strength.