I am 27 years old and a lesbian. I met someone I liked and expressed my liking to her and she said she had guessed what I was thinking. I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she honestly told me she did. Later, she quit the common group chat, but used her personal WeChat to re-add me. She said to me, "We'll see each other in the future," and occasionally replied to me with a brief sentence or two. But not long after, she seemed to have blocked me, then blacklisted me, and a day later removed me from her blacklist. We had a fight because her coworker and I had a problem and I called out her ex-colleague and she said she was disappointed in me. But I think it was just an excuse and she actually wanted to delete me. I missed her and tried to add her again, but she once again blackmailed me for two days and then deleted me completely. I really don't know what she was thinking.
Hi. - Hi! First of all, I'll give you a big hug through the air. I'm so glad to read your plea for help, and I hope that what I've shared will give you some warmth and support. From your description, I can sense that you are particularly concerned about how this person treats you and that you long for acceptance and understanding. Obviously, how she treats you is out of your control, but you can focus on how her behavior makes you feel. When she makes a move to pull the plug, delete, etc. that makes you feel hurt, it's the way you respond that you can decide. For example, you can try to be brave and tell her how these behaviors really make you feel inside, but don't judge her choices because that's her freedom. Try asking yourself: why do you care so much about her attitude? How important is it to you if she likes you or not? Is there emotional support you wish to receive from her that you can fulfill through self-growth? It's true that she may be able to give you companionship and comfort, but that's partly uncertain and depends entirely on her mood and state. So, only when you learn to respond to those needs through your own efforts will you not be so easily influenced by the attitudes of others who can give as a matter of affection, but not as a matter of nature. You can record your inner feelings and needs when she pulls the plug and deletes you by writing a diary, which will help you see and release your emotions, sort out your needs, and learn to satisfy yourself. You will find that you are fully capable and resourceful to take care of yourself. I'm Lily Little Ears from the Answer Library, the world and I love you.