He and I don't go to the same school. I messaged my friend and asked, "Do you want to hang out tomorrow?" But he replied, "Why didn't you ask me out yesterday? I have a lot of homework these days, so I might not be available." But not long after, I swiped through my friends' circles and saw that he had posted a dynamic: "Does anyone want to hang out tomorrow? I suddenly don't want to do my homework."
I took the initiative to ask him out and he sent a friend circle asking if someone else was available. It was hard for me to think that maybe he has friends who are closer to him. This feeling of being ignored makes me torn - saying I don't have friends doesn't count; saying I do have friends doesn't make sense because I'm not the first person he thinks of.
Hi! First of all, I'll give you a warm hug through the space ~ I'm glad to see you share this and I hope my advice will be of some help. From your description, I can sense that what your friend did made you feel rejected, isolated, unappreciated, and even a little bit aggrieved and powerless.
It's evident that you especially crave the company and attention of your friends, which can make you feel needed and welcome. Try to embrace this need, as it is human nature to seek a sense of belonging.
In the face of a friend's behavior of asking someone else out on a friend circle immediately after rejecting you, you can be brave enough to express your feelings, such as directly saying, "You're hurting me a little bit by doing this." Maybe he just changed his plans temporarily, but communication can avoid misunderstandings.
Let's be honest, no one can fully fulfill our expectations except ourselves. How we want others to treat us, we have to learn to treat ourselves first. Be your own strongest support through self-growth.
When we are able to meet some of our emotional needs on our own, we are less likely to be hurt by others because we know we are good enough and worthy of being loved. The fact that others don't behave the way we expect them to may be due to their limited abilities, which has nothing to do with our worth.
I'm Lily the Little Ear, the world and I love you.