When I talk to my friends and share some experiences, I often unconsciously get emotional, such as speaking at a faster tempo and raising my voice pitch. If I talk about the difficulties encountered by others, it is easy for others to think that I am a bit gloating, but in fact, I have absolutely no intention of belittling them in my heart, instead, I feel as if I have become a bad person.
Every time I finished speaking, I regretted that I had been too impulsive and had not controlled my tone. Afterwards, I always wondered why I couldn't have been more calm and collected. What is this situation called in psychology? How should I adjust it? Can anyone who knows how to do this give me some advice? Thank you very much!
Hello. First, a warm hug. I'm Phil.
I also feel quite sad to hear that you are experiencing such distress.
Based on your description.
You mentioned that when you're sharing things with others.
It's easy to unconsciously bring all sorts of emotions into your speech.
And those emotions may not be what you originally intended to express.
Or not the feeling you're trying to convey.
That's why it's so regrettable and uncomfortable that
Wondering how to avoid this.
It actually shows that you feel things more strongly.
Well, that's not strictly a bad thing.
One might even say it's a good thing that
And it's within the limits of what we can adjust.
Just as some people may be emotionally apathetic or hollowed out, incapable of accurately understanding the emotions of others, the
In turn, there are others like you who can feel this as acutely as you do.
I've been in a similar situation with
In serious cases, before anyone else feels anything, they are first especially happy because of the circumstances.
Or cry out.
When I dealt with this situation.
Using a method taught by a teacher that
Try to see things in an objective tone or third person point of view.
Because of this emotional vicarious ability to
prone to putting themselves in each other's shoes.
So it's possible to jump in and take a spectator's point of view and
Taking things apart.
Slowly detach yourself from your current role.
I hope my answer was helpful to you.
May the world and I love you.